Let's Just be Friends Line.

The Friend Zone...

*This is my personal opinion and should be viewed as such, if you agree- High Fives, if you Disagree- High Fives. This video was done from a place of love and honour not to dishonour anyone!

Comments

[rach]

i know this is super late, but i'm just catching up on your blog!
hmm..i think the 'i just want to be friends line' is an honest answer. it might not be the entire answer, but is it really helpful to hear it spelled out 'i dont like you enough to keep dating you' or 'i like someone else better' or 'you're too ______ or not enough _____'? whatever the reason...they've decided they don't want to continue dating you and they are letting you know (probably in as gentle and kind a way as they can, which is usually by saying they just want to be friends.)
i've had a hard time in the past knowing what to tell a guy. i try to affirm them but be clear that i only want to be friends, that i don't want a romantic relationship. the deeper layer of that obviously has to do with who I am, my own preferences or what I think I need in a relationship, and telling someone what that is won't necessarily be helpful to them or less hurtful. regardless of what we are told when someone breaks up with us or 'non-breaks up' if there was no official dating going on, the rejected one is almost always going to wonder what is wrong with them and why it wasn't mutual. wanting the other person to give us a character evaluation afterwards will probably only hurt, because we've begun to really care what they think of us (maybe more than what God thinks of us).
i've been on both sides of it, and to be honest i don't want to know what the person found lacking in me...the Holy Spirit can point something out to me if it really is a matter of my character. if it's not a matter of character, then i don't need to hear what someone doesn't like about my personality! at the end of it all, i need to keep coming back to Jesus with my heart and asking him to be the one to judge it and love me as I am.